Words cannot express how completely pissed off I would be with him, if I were there. It's a lunch. It will end. You win points and build up ground for future argument by being there, being polite. (Further, Anne and Kristen haven't done anything that merits being rude to them. Gah.) As Jensen would doubtless point out to Jeff... if he felt able to do so, which obviously, he doesn't.
This is fantastic - getting so many new parts so rapidly. The story is developing and I'm fascinated. (Can you tell?)